Father & Son - Relationship "Tied - Untied - United"

We as citizens of India, always feels proud of our rich culture. Have you ever thought of the reasons behind our cultural values??

There might be many reasons, but one of the most important reason which stands as a strongest pillar in safeguarding our culture is the relationships we follow and maintain.

Relationships here I mean the relationships in a family i.e., Husband-Wife Relationship, Mother-Children Relationship, Sibling Relationship and Father-Children Relationship.

Out of these 4 main family relationship, today I want to pen down my thoughts on Relationship Between Father & Son.


In the recent past I liked a movie which depicted a present day story of a father & Son and it shows us how a son feels about his over obsessive father.I sometimes identified myself in this situation, and even know that many of us in this generation would feel the same.

Many think that the relationship defined in our culture is the reason for this. Father being head of the family commands respect and children are always afraid to approach father to discuss something or even talk to him.

Many of us when in school, college of even while doing jobs might have many thoughts but were afraid to implement the same by the thought that if known to father what will he think and say and many a times even if we don't like or not clear about something end up accepting the same becoz, our father said this and we should not go against him.

This might even lead to dissatisfaction in life...then one day if we start contesting and might end up in such a situation that we cant handle the pain and pressure involved.

Luckily I never have to face such a situation even though I have passed through such scenarios. Not debating who's is right and who is wrong, since I believe that no one in this world intentionally does anything wrong.

The main reason for me to write this article is thought which made me think, what's so wrong in being obsessive as a Father?

Yes! Father being the head of the family always want his family to be in good shape and lead a good life.
Fathers have seen through their life and learnt their lessons, which they don't want to be repeated with their children.

It's always easy to say learn lessons/ life your own way, but being practical and realistic fathers form a protective circle around their children which obviously is their duty ! This being misunderstood by the younger generation.

To avoid all these situations, as a younger generations we should open to discuss our life, ambitions, goals etc., with out fear with our father making sure that we are not hurting their feelings. And the time will come we being the fathers of our children, and we should be ready to provide that open communicative atmosphere to our children.

There are 3 stages where a relationship develops especially the parental relationship and each stage influences the preceding stage.

Father - Kid
Father - Adolescent
Father - Adult

Father - Kid: Building a relationship is like building a Home, for a home to be strong the foundation should be solid and concrete, if we apply the same concept it is very important for a Father - Son relationship to be Strong that the initial stage Father - Kid relationship should be build strong. Its actually very easy to attach emotionally to a kid, what exactly they need??. They need your time, love and care !!. We in today's world think of which school they should go, and the quality of education they need and what efforts we should put to achieve this and become busy in order to full fill these needs and ignore the above mentioned
time, love & care. A small chocolate, a trip to a Zoo and food at a restaurant: these small things might prove to be more strong base than any others to build your relationship.

Please take out some time for your kid which will end up your kid enjoying your company !!

Father - Adolescent: This stage of life is important since it serves as a stage for the future adult to face the practicalities and realities of life. If the base of Father - Kid relationship is built Strong, then the Adolescent son who is now seeing lot of things of life with his own eyes will never hesitate to discuss the same with his father who would be ideal to help sorting out the situations.

In this stage a Mother - Son relationship which is a kind of protective zone,cant expose the realities of life and cant alone help the growing child where in he need his father support.

Father - Adult: After your efforts in building the earlier stages of building you relationship, you can now see the results showing up. Now actually being a father you can take a little breather, as it is easier to maintain this relationship with very littler efforts.


Your son who has developed in an adult, can now easily understand the efforts you had put in through out your child life to build a healthy relationship and will reciprocate the same way with the same love, care and time towards you.


What more you need, this is the way you wanted it to be... and a happy life ever after... :)