My Dad's Retirement - 31/01/2011

Hi All,

                                       This time I thought, Rather than my feelings and thoughts I should reflect here the words directly from me... and I thought the apt occasion to start with would be My Dad's retirement - 31/1/2011. Firstly I have to accept a fact that, I never thought the Occasion would be such a success and my Dad had such a great respect among his colleagues and society. There was a Function arranged at his office, and we were actually lucky to have some of our relatives who made it for the occasion.

                                        Many of Dad's superiors as well as reportees spoke so great about my Dad and it gave me a great boost to speak out my mind about my Dad in front of that gathering. Here are the words direct from my heart and mouth...

Good evening to all..

You all might very well know that we are 2 children for our father Mr. Madireddi Venkatadri Garu, or if you don’t know you can easily recognize us by the similarities in our shape & appearances. (My brother interrupted and said “Shape is not his fault) everyone laughs.

A simple example of my dad’s sincerity and dedication, we never knew our native place which is said to be Kirlampudi near Kakinada. I remember when I was very small kid we went there only once when my Great grandmother was alive. Dad came he to Srisailam Project in 1978, got married in 1981, I was born in 1983 & brother in 1985. And today (2011) we are here as you all can see. So, for me if anyone asks about my native place then I will definitely say its Srisailam Project.

Regarding my mom Mrs. M Geethavani Garu, I think you know her well as Hindi teacher and she recently also got retired after 18 years of service. One more quality of my father, he will never go against rules and I has seen the struggle he faced every time I came here to my parents in holidays. It’s not only me but everyone here knows the problems one has to face for being upfront on rules.

Earlier, while studying I never even thought how dad was managing everything my engineering fees which was Rs. 45000/- per year etc., luckily my brother saved on my dad’s pocket by getting a free engineering seat (Rs. 8000/- per year).

One thing I wanted to reiterate here is whatever we are today, it’s only because of our Father. Thanks Dad for everything. And for our parents till now we did nothing great, but we as children of our parents promise today that we will do all that we are supposed to in your Respect & Love.

Regarding my relatives, who are present here I wanted to thank everyone for being here on this occasion, which with you presence has become special for us. I don’t want to thank them actually as they are my family and there is no need for formalities in a family. It’s just to let the others know that they are also here on this occasion.


Lastly I request everyone present here, even though retired kindly extend your cooperation to our father in all the ways he might require.


Thanking one and all…


It was truly an emotional moment for me, and Today after almost 2 months I tried remembering that day 31/01/2011 and share with you.

mR. pErFeCt

I am Nobody,
Nobody is perfect,
Therefore, I am perfect!

Salman Khan, Hrithik Roshan, Shahrukh khan, Ranbeer Kapoor, Mahesh Babu etc., are these guyz only perfect men we have?  Aishwarya, Bipasha, Pamela etc., are these are the only ladies with perfect figure?  Does a husband and wife be perfect couple only if they have lots of kids?  Do perfect husbands earn lotz of money each year?  A wife can be perfect only when she cooks deliciously?

People having many friends can only be perfect?  Tons of life experience makes people perfect?  Failure never even dares to touch perfect people?

No!  You can be sure that they aren’t!  It’s not just all of this but there is a lot more…

I am perfect but I am skinny.  I am perfect but I struggle with overweight.  I am Mr. Perfect but Work out in a Gym sounds a Joke to me.  I am perfect but I can’t lift weights as I suffer from back pain.  I am perfect but I am handicapped.

Even women can face the same struggle as men to sound perfect, they might be tiny, heavy, short, fake etc., and the women whom we think are perfect, might not be so naturally but may be artificially.

A husband and wife with a single child are perfect.  A Husband and wife with 5 kids are also perfect.  A husband and wife who can’t conceive and adopt kids are also perfect.  A husband and wife having their own kids and also adopt more children are also perfect.  A husband and wife with no kids are also perfect as they don’t need them.

A man who stays at home is a perfect husband.  A man who owns a big business is also a perfect husband.  A farmer is a perfect husband.  A man who changes his career after 15 years is also a perfect husband.  A man who doesn’t know anything to earn out a living is also a perfect husband.

Can’t a wife be perfect if she doesn’t cook because she even works and gets tired after coming back from office?  Can’t a wife be perfect if she cooks only vegetarian food? Can’t a wife be perfect if she doesn’t like cooking?  Can’t a wife be perfect if she is a chef at a big restaurant?  Can’t a wife be perfect if she cooks only Maggie noodles?

‘There’s no such thing as a perfect partner, just perfect for me.’

I am perfect having only 2 buddies and sharing my thoughts & feelings with only them.  I am perfect having hundreds of my Facebook friends with whom I keep in touch regularly.  I am perfect with my gang of friends.  I am perfect with my famous friends.  I am perfect with my pets who are my only friends.

I have seen & known all over the world and I am perfect.  I am perfect by not knowing even my hometown.  I am perfect and I still live with my parents.  I am perfect and I am happy with what I am.  I am perfect by not knowing what exactly I want to be.

I am perfect and I lose hope only when I fail many times.  I am perfect and I win the very first time.  I am perfect but I don’t admit my mistake.  I am perfect and I know that failure is the stepping stone for success & growth.  I am perfect and I never fail since I do only what I know.

My face does have scars and dark complexion and I am perfect.  I had short grey hair when I was 30 and I have long brown hair at 50 only because I am perfect.  I am perfect but I wear a wig. I am perfect and have a waist size XXXXXXXX.  I am perfect and have a fair complexion. I am also perfect and I have dark complexion.

I am perfect and I came from every part of this beautiful world and I can be found anywhere – even when you tried looking into a Mirror.

The way we came into this world (Born) and the way we are now, we are unique!!

Yeah!  I am Mr. Perfect and I am every one of you!

Human life is all about growing and changing, a perfect person is a person who is growing. To grow it requires us to make mistakes and compromises, perfection requires mistakes and compromises.

Boring would be the life if we were perfect in every sense and there would be nothing to correct.
It doesn’t have to be about how we compare to others…it’s who we truly are, each one of us, which matters…

Let us rejoice in our imperfections. Let us celebrate our imperfections. For, imperfect is what we are.
People should be taught never to pursue perfection - only excellence. People should accept that we are imperfect. Imperfect is interesting, EXCITING!!!

Let us delete from our mind that perfection is the only good thing in the world. No, imperfection is good. It is in the course of imperfection that we turn out to be improved. There is nothing more to be improved in perfection. It is the journey (becoming improved & enhanced), not the objective that makes life exciting.

"Last but not the least in this world of artistic, visual and accomplishment based perfectionism here I raise a flag for perfection as our own inherent character that requires no change, no big money or not even customary of dimension. Perfection is the individuality that everybody is by just being themselves."

Pelli Choopulu - Look over for a Prospective Bride

Hi Friends,

After a series of Blogs on some serious topics, Today I thought I would share a ligther (but culturally Strong) moment with you all. And its pelli Choopulu. Pelli Choopulu is a word in Telugu language and doesn't have a single word translation in English and it means "Look over for a Prospective bride". This part is the second step in an arranged marriage concept.

The concept of "Pelli Choopulu - Look over for a Prospective bride" is almost nullified in the west as almost all the marriages there are based on love between a boy and a girl, but still its roots are very much stronger in Our Country India. As I said earlier in my blog on Arranged Marriages Vs Love Marriages, I am not against any and I believe we can still love the person we marry the same way as we do in Loving someone and getting married.

Now coming to the actual incident which happened in the recent past, it was my first time I happened to attend a Pelli choopulu. I really enjoyed the entire happening and thought of sharing with you guys :). The location which was selected for the occasion was the girls uncle's place in Hyderabad and was neutral since me as well as my parents felt it would be the best suit for travel arrangements, and the timing selected was 11:00 AM in the morning. Everyone were to travel the earlier day to reach the destination as the girl's parents were from a place, the girl was from another (she was working). My parents were from some other place and me from some other (I was also working). Only relatives from my side as well as girl's side from Hyderabad.

I was supposed to reach Hyderabad by 7 in the morning, thanks to APSRTC Garuda service which obviously got delayed and I happened to reach by 9:30 AM. My parents planned such that they will stay at one of out Aunt's home and will reach 2nd Aunt's home where I was supposed to land and get ready for the Occasion and all will go the the girl's place.By the time I reached by Aunt's home, everyone were eagerly waiting for me since I was already late and was been asked to get ready soon. I went to freshen up, by the time I came back after bath my parents with my uncle and aunt were here at the 2nd aunt's home.

Since, it was getting late my mom helped me having my breakfast (Edli & Chutney) and after that I was supposed to get dressed. But the shirt which I bought was a new one and was not properly pressed. This added spice to the situation, the way every was looking at me was really noticeable. My mom removed the shirt, my Sister in law arranged for the Iron and my mom finally got it pressed and made it presentable. In the mean time my cousin brother bought a perfume and applied it on me.

Now it was almost the time to leave for the girl's place, first batch including my Mom,dad, Uncle, & Aunt left in the car and we were waiting for the car to drop them there and pick us up. With in some time car came and the 2nd batch including me, sis in law, uncle and aunt accompanied by my cousin brother on bike left for the girl's place.

The excitement for the occasion and the heat from sun were already making me sweat, added to this as we reached the girl's place I found the elevator wasn't working. Girl's father and uncle came downstairs to receive us. I have to tell you something interesting here, we were a total of 9 members of my family reached the girl's place. ( hehehe :)) ) I don't know how the girl's family reacted to this situation. They were only 5 of them present.

Initially there was a general talk about the previous day's travel, and I was actually awaiting for the girl to come in. After few mins, the girl came in and I wished her Hi..and she reciprocated the same way with a beautiful smile. I thought it was my day and I should take the lead and started introducing my family to her. My Uncle, Aunt, 2nd uncle and Aunt, my mom & dad & last but not the least my cousin brother & Bhabhi. She even reciprocated the same by introducing her family, uncle & aunt, mom & dad.

Later, again there started some serious discussion of our families about some unnecessary topics. I interrupted everyone by saying to make it little casual so that can provide a little breather for us. I was actually looking to the opportunity to talk to the girl in person. I asked my brother and bhabhi to take care of this. In the mean while I never wanted to miss a chance to look at the girl. I was looking at the girl and the girl was also trying to see me. During this, at many of the moments our looks were getting locked and I was enjoying the feeling in my heart. Soon I had that chance to speak to her personally, we were sent to a adjacent room.

I thought of taking the fullest advantage of the opportunity provided to know each other, I asked her if she was comfortable, and my thinking behind this was to provide her the necessary space so that she can express herself better. And we started talking and I never had a hint how the time of running ahead. after some time the girl's aunt came in, I thought it might be time now and this would be the reason she came in. But she handed over some cool drinks to us, I asked if she had come for giving us the cool drinks or to pull us out, I think she was a little amused by my question and asked if the talks were not yet finished?? I said, I still needed to talk. she left and we continued talking.

Soon there was a knock at the door, and I realised it was my mom now and was asking whether only I will talk to the girl, even she wanted to talk to her and pulled me out. Later I realised that she was asked to do so by my other family members as it was almost close to or even more than an hour.

During our chat, we talked about almost everything which we wanted to know about a prospective life partner. There were obviously some silly questions to the girl by my family such as does she know singing, dancing etc., I also did had some questions about my profession, whether I know about share market etc., And soon it was time now for us to leave....:(, my family expressed their regards and told the girls family that they will come back with a decision soon. we left, but this time I was sent in the first batch in the car :(.

By this time you all would have known how excited I was and how I enjoyed the whole occasion. But truly, I cannot express in words about some feeling which would make you feel the butterflies in your stomach, making you little more excited and one should pass though this phase to feel it.

As I said this was my first "Pelli Choopulu - Look over for a prospective bride" and the memories will last for ever.

Father & Son - Relationship "Tied - Untied - United"

We as citizens of India, always feels proud of our rich culture. Have you ever thought of the reasons behind our cultural values??

There might be many reasons, but one of the most important reason which stands as a strongest pillar in safeguarding our culture is the relationships we follow and maintain.

Relationships here I mean the relationships in a family i.e., Husband-Wife Relationship, Mother-Children Relationship, Sibling Relationship and Father-Children Relationship.

Out of these 4 main family relationship, today I want to pen down my thoughts on Relationship Between Father & Son.


In the recent past I liked a movie which depicted a present day story of a father & Son and it shows us how a son feels about his over obsessive father.I sometimes identified myself in this situation, and even know that many of us in this generation would feel the same.

Many think that the relationship defined in our culture is the reason for this. Father being head of the family commands respect and children are always afraid to approach father to discuss something or even talk to him.

Many of us when in school, college of even while doing jobs might have many thoughts but were afraid to implement the same by the thought that if known to father what will he think and say and many a times even if we don't like or not clear about something end up accepting the same becoz, our father said this and we should not go against him.

This might even lead to dissatisfaction in life...then one day if we start contesting and might end up in such a situation that we cant handle the pain and pressure involved.

Luckily I never have to face such a situation even though I have passed through such scenarios. Not debating who's is right and who is wrong, since I believe that no one in this world intentionally does anything wrong.

The main reason for me to write this article is thought which made me think, what's so wrong in being obsessive as a Father?

Yes! Father being the head of the family always want his family to be in good shape and lead a good life.
Fathers have seen through their life and learnt their lessons, which they don't want to be repeated with their children.

It's always easy to say learn lessons/ life your own way, but being practical and realistic fathers form a protective circle around their children which obviously is their duty ! This being misunderstood by the younger generation.

To avoid all these situations, as a younger generations we should open to discuss our life, ambitions, goals etc., with out fear with our father making sure that we are not hurting their feelings. And the time will come we being the fathers of our children, and we should be ready to provide that open communicative atmosphere to our children.

There are 3 stages where a relationship develops especially the parental relationship and each stage influences the preceding stage.

Father - Kid
Father - Adolescent
Father - Adult

Father - Kid: Building a relationship is like building a Home, for a home to be strong the foundation should be solid and concrete, if we apply the same concept it is very important for a Father - Son relationship to be Strong that the initial stage Father - Kid relationship should be build strong. Its actually very easy to attach emotionally to a kid, what exactly they need??. They need your time, love and care !!. We in today's world think of which school they should go, and the quality of education they need and what efforts we should put to achieve this and become busy in order to full fill these needs and ignore the above mentioned
time, love & care. A small chocolate, a trip to a Zoo and food at a restaurant: these small things might prove to be more strong base than any others to build your relationship.

Please take out some time for your kid which will end up your kid enjoying your company !!

Father - Adolescent: This stage of life is important since it serves as a stage for the future adult to face the practicalities and realities of life. If the base of Father - Kid relationship is built Strong, then the Adolescent son who is now seeing lot of things of life with his own eyes will never hesitate to discuss the same with his father who would be ideal to help sorting out the situations.

In this stage a Mother - Son relationship which is a kind of protective zone,cant expose the realities of life and cant alone help the growing child where in he need his father support.

Father - Adult: After your efforts in building the earlier stages of building you relationship, you can now see the results showing up. Now actually being a father you can take a little breather, as it is easier to maintain this relationship with very littler efforts.


Your son who has developed in an adult, can now easily understand the efforts you had put in through out your child life to build a healthy relationship and will reciprocate the same way with the same love, care and time towards you.


What more you need, this is the way you wanted it to be... and a happy life ever after... :)

Goals - Do u have one???

Respected Readers...

I hope all of us know what a goal is !!

Goals: In this situation, I dont mean the Goals in sports like Soccer, Hockey etc., .I am going to talk about  the goals which I think are necessary to be set by every individual to proceed ahead in their lives.

The importance of a goal would be that, it helps us to measure ourselves in many regards like where we stand and what time it would take for us to reach that specific point which we aimed at.

Goals also serve us as a mentor, guide and as a Visionary...The goals we set for ourselves can judge us to , what kind of a person we are...

Goals are of many kinds, but here I will specify a very few basic types:
1) Achievable
2) Measurable
3) Short term
4) Long term

Before we proceed , I would like to recollect and underline one basic fact of life.
As a person we would be the best judge to know ourselves. None other than ourselves can know each of us better. We might be able to fool around with every other person in life but not self .....

"" Please dont try to fool yourselves "" - By this quote what I mean is , the goals we set should be very much achievable and one can easily know this...Going back to history , Abraham Lincoln had become the President of United states. But I can bet that even though we have such kind of people in the world, but we cannot even think of them becoming presidents anymore...

So, be realistic before you set something as your goal.

Now, as you had set a realistic goal try to measure it.. ""Measurable is Achievable""
Here what I mean is about planning, To achieve a goal, we cannot sit idle and assume we will achieve our aimed goal someday.

We should know when we will achieve the goal, what efforts are required to achieve the same and in what time.

Now, we have a realistic measurable goal. But one important thing here would be that once we have our goal in mind and proceeding towards it, we have to surpass and win over some situations on our way towards our final goal. One should be able to identify those situations, and should be able to mark them as their Sub-goals or Short term goals.

To make it simpler, suppose your final long term goal might be getting an Engineering seat in Some premier college. To achieve this Passing an examination with 90% marks is mandatory.
For you to achieve this , first you have to plan how to study and when you will be able to complete your studies.
Then only you can achieve the desired result.

In the above scenario:
Engineering seat in Some premier college: Long Term Goal
Passing with 90% : Realistic Goal
Complete Studying: Short term Goal
Planning How to study and what to study: Measuring the goal
Now what's remaining is that you have to achieve it... All the best...
Dont you think if one starts to plan and work for his goal in this way, he can achieve it.

Thats why I feel, "Proceeding without a goal is just like a blind person throwing stone at a Mango on the tree."
Don't be such fools, you can never have such a Mango...

Arranged Marriage Vs Love Marriage

Guys !! A very intresting topic in everyone's minds in todays world (I mean mainly in India).
Let me clarify one thing first, I am not against anything of the above two. Both have their own advantages and disadvantages. And if we start debating on this topic, I am sure it will never end.

First let us talk about Love marriage: What's love?? Now don't start thinking that its foolish to ask such a question. Just ask yourself and try to get answer for the same. I am sure not many people can define love the same way as the other person does.

My way of defining would be - Understanding the other person in depth, giving value to their feelings, thoughts and I am sure we will always like their company, always try to do good for them in the best way possible and share everything we want to where we cant do it with everyone.

Being citizens of this country, we are being said that we would be majors when we turn 18 and we can take descisions on our own. Most important thing is we can start voting and select the person to be our representative in Goverenament. When one can become so meture to choose his representative, I believe he will not be wrong when it comes to choosing his partner for the rest of his life.

Love marriage is good in all senses and no one should oppose it, rather try to understand the sincerety, the bond and mainly how happily the couple can lead their rest of the life together.

Now lets trun to the Arranged Marriage: We being the Indians I am sure we are all proud to be Indians, Just think what would be the major differentiater between our country with the rest. My answer would be our Culture, every one would agree with it. Our culture is defined almost in every aspect of life from birth till the end of life.

Marriage is one of the most important aspect full of cutural bindings, rituals and the biggest occassion in one's life. Our parents gave birth to us and their love towards us is unconditional. They always think good for us, I doubt if anyone can question about this. They decide, which school would be good for us, which clothes would suite us good, the food we like and everything we can think of.....and they will always think of doing good for us.

Marriage - Starts with fetching for a perfect match, they look for a nice girl, thier family everything and ask for our feedback, If not satisfied sit and disscuss the goods and bads then come for a final descision.
After a successfull marriage, they will always back us whenever we need their support.

There is nothing wrong in being modren and thinking modren and taking descisions on our own. And there would be one day when we are bound to be open and start thinking only the above way. But till the time when our cultural values are still intact, we can help strenthening the cultural values and go for a Arranged marriage.

And regarding love, we can always love the person we marry the same way what we thought love is and should be. I am sure this will always result is a successfull marriage.

This is all I have in my mind at this moment, and I would like to know your comments and feedback on the same...

Am I doing it right ??

Hi Guys !!

Let me introduce myself first - Me myself Satyasivakiran Madireddi, I am 27 years old and an IT/ITES professional. Now what Am I doing here.. I am new to blogging and thought of starting it to share my experiences, thoughts and feelings of my life which might help some of you and may be I can learn more things from all of you.

I think thats enough of me..now my aim here is to know how my thought process proceeds ahead.
So, I am gonna talk about anything that strikes my mind and leads me to share the same with you all.

Examples:
1) You all might have experienced people saying to be positive always, and my thought on this would be... Is is really possible for humans to be positive all the time...???
2) Do we really lead our life the way we want it be or the way we boast it is??
3) Arrenged Marriage Vs Love Marriage
4) Does every one has a goal in mind before they proceed ahead in any direction??

Above are few examples which I would like to share with my real life scenarios.

Wishing me all the best... Watch it out from me !!