Guys !! A very intresting topic in everyone's minds in todays world (I mean mainly in India).
Let me clarify one thing first, I am not against anything of the above two. Both have their own advantages and disadvantages. And if we start debating on this topic, I am sure it will never end.
First let us talk about Love marriage: What's love?? Now don't start thinking that its foolish to ask such a question. Just ask yourself and try to get answer for the same. I am sure not many people can define love the same way as the other person does.
My way of defining would be - Understanding the other person in depth, giving value to their feelings, thoughts and I am sure we will always like their company, always try to do good for them in the best way possible and share everything we want to where we cant do it with everyone.
Being citizens of this country, we are being said that we would be majors when we turn 18 and we can take descisions on our own. Most important thing is we can start voting and select the person to be our representative in Goverenament. When one can become so meture to choose his representative, I believe he will not be wrong when it comes to choosing his partner for the rest of his life.
Love marriage is good in all senses and no one should oppose it, rather try to understand the sincerety, the bond and mainly how happily the couple can lead their rest of the life together.
Now lets trun to the Arranged Marriage: We being the Indians I am sure we are all proud to be Indians, Just think what would be the major differentiater between our country with the rest. My answer would be our Culture, every one would agree with it. Our culture is defined almost in every aspect of life from birth till the end of life.
Marriage is one of the most important aspect full of cutural bindings, rituals and the biggest occassion in one's life. Our parents gave birth to us and their love towards us is unconditional. They always think good for us, I doubt if anyone can question about this. They decide, which school would be good for us, which clothes would suite us good, the food we like and everything we can think of.....and they will always think of doing good for us.
Marriage - Starts with fetching for a perfect match, they look for a nice girl, thier family everything and ask for our feedback, If not satisfied sit and disscuss the goods and bads then come for a final descision.
After a successfull marriage, they will always back us whenever we need their support.
There is nothing wrong in being modren and thinking modren and taking descisions on our own. And there would be one day when we are bound to be open and start thinking only the above way. But till the time when our cultural values are still intact, we can help strenthening the cultural values and go for a Arranged marriage.
And regarding love, we can always love the person we marry the same way what we thought love is and should be. I am sure this will always result is a successfull marriage.
This is all I have in my mind at this moment, and I would like to know your comments and feedback on the same...
